In Ask the Chiefs we bring a group of SHS students to answer questions submitted to anyone in the high school. To submit your questions anonymously you can write it down and put in under Mrs. Speer’s door.

Q - How do I make connections and find friends in HS? I want the kind of friendships you see on the WB or movies, but I don’t know where to start? - Lonely

Our advice for this one is simple. Put yourself out there! You can just start chatting with random people, but you have to put forth the effort and get out of your comfort zone. To find out which people suit you, nter 0 - 2:00 you might try hanging out with them outside of school to see what kind of people they are. You don’t have to be too close or personal to be friends so don’t always expect best friends for life. The odds are that other people also want friends and will be more than happy to get to know you.

Q - How do I choose which activities I want to be involved in? There are so many choices and I don’t have any idea how to decide. - Indecisive

On this one we have had the same kind of issues. For a comprehensive list of at the school website or talk to the school counselors. After you know what is available you need to figure out what you do best. You might look at your hobbies outside of school and try to connect those with the things we do in the school. If you still can’t figure out what seems like you, you may ask your friends what they think would be a good fit.

Q - So I’ve been talking to this person for about a month, but we rarely hang out when we aren’t at games because they have strict parents and at school, we don’t even have the same lunch hour. I know we’re just in HS, but I really like this person and I want it to work out. We aren’t public yet so it’s just a really difficult situation. What do I do? - Anxious

So, relationships are a lot of work no matter the situation. If you aren’t even official yet maybe evaluate what kind of future, you can have. Most people might tell you to lie and sneak around but that’s no good. If you really want this to work get to know their parents, do group dates, and hang out with friends too. The most important part is getting to spend more time together and get to know them better. It sounds like at this point you don’t really know this person. If you can’t hang outside of school, what’s the point of it?